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    Marie
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    Hi

    I’m new to the site and have my hysterectomy operation scheduled for 06th March 18. I was doing ok, but I’m now getting very anxious and almost terrified. Silly things keep popping into my head like how to twist to wipe after a trip to the loo…. what underwear, How to get comfy on the sofa, How to sleep properly…. What scar will i have…..lots of things lol. I’m 46 and months ago found a lump which I ignored (yes, stupid i know). After a very quick turn around if ultrasounds, mri’s and consultations it was found to be fibroids, the largest being 13cm x 8cm. I have finished my family, I was sterilized 20 yr ago and has an ablation 7 yrs ago and haven’t had a period since, so it not like I need the uterus. But I’m suddenly quite scared. Xx

    #318019

    juleskirk50
    Moderator

    Hello Marie and welcome,

    It’s completely normal to be nervous I think we all were – but we all get through it somehow !!
    You should have a read through January and December forums to get an idea of what to expect before, during and after your surgery and I could also recommend looking at Michelle kenways site – she is an Australian physio specialising in women’s issues and her website has so much useful information including how to get out of bed following the surgery and also re moving bowels etc it’s very helpful. If you have any questions just ask as usually someone will be able to help you.

    I will start a March group and anomother ladies having their surgery in March can join you.

    Good luck xx

    #318021

    Marie
    Participant

    Thank you so much. That will be my bed time reading for this evening. 🙂 my partner has been very busy starting a new job on silly shifts. I haven’t mentioned my worries to him yet as I suspect he is also a bit worried, so I will read the hubby bits too. Thank you xxx

    #318024

    Valybobs
    Participant

    Hi Marie
    I’m also awaiting my op – no date yet but pre-op assessment tomorrow. From what I’ve heard from other fab females on this site the waiting is the worst part. I’m certainly hoping so! Sometimes my anxiety hits me out of nowhere and I just have to remember it’s being done to make my life much better. Other times I’m just seeing it like a faulty part being taken out. Maybe I’ll be March too and can join you there.
    Take care
    🙂

    #318025

    Marie
    Participant

    Thank you Valybobs. I just Browsing the Web For V Shaped pillows. Tryg to stay positive but have blips now and again. I’ve never had a c section so I’m lucky, I have no scars. …That will change. Lots of worries but as my dad said “lots of women have them so don’t worry about it” ….x. My pre I’m is on 13th feb, I have to have injection to stop the flow of blood to it 3 week before so hence I haven’t had mine yet. Good luck tomorrow, please let me know how you get on xxx

    #318030

    KatieG
    Participant

    Hi Marie

    I had a very quick turnaround re having my op, albeit for different reasons to you. Was told I needed a full hysterectomy (plus removal of ovaries, tubes and cervix) on 15 December and I had the surgery done on 19 Jan. It’s all been a whirlwind!

    Definitely reiterate the recommendation from Jules re Michelle Kenway – short, easy to follow, videos on all sorts of topics to help you. I didn’t discover her site until after my op – when I was lying in bed, trying to work out how to get out of it without straining the abdominal area! It seems slightly amusing, looking back on it, although didn’t feel so at the time! So I’d really recommend you taking a look before your op if possible. You can then practise her recommendations in advance.

    This website also has lots of excellent advice (both in the forums and on the general site) and you will hopefully soon be joined by other March 2018 ladies so you can all talk to each other pre and post op.

    Take care
    Katie xx

    #318033

    Marie
    Participant

    Hi Katie, I’ve read some of your posts in Jan. How are you feeling now? X. OH actually had a night off tonight so it may give us chance for a chat so please forgive me if I don’t reply tonight xx

    #318036

    KatieG
    Participant

    Hi Marie

    I’m actually feeling pretty good (considering what’s taken place!) – yippee! I’m being really careful with my recovery plan – definitely a very slow but sure approach to hopefully give me the best chance to heal properly. I’m quite an active person normally – love running, walking and swimming – but, apart from daily short walks (which are recommended), I’m taking it pretty easy.

    Did you manage to buy a V pillow online? I already had one – it’s been brilliant this last week.

    Hopefully you have seen on my (and others) posts in January forum that the anxiety of waiting for the surgery date to arrive is the worst bit! Not much consolation for you at the moment I know.

    Hope you manage to have a good chat with your OH this evening and just reply when/if you want to.

    Katie xx

    #318041

    Marie
    Participant

    Hi Katie .
    We didn’t get much time to chat, but he did say he was terrified of losing me as it’s a major operation…From then my worries about how he’d feel about a scar seemed insignificant. He does nearly everything round the house anyway so other than also sorting out the hound he doesn’t see much different.

    I’m Sure I’m worrying about nothing. How do the v shaped allows work. I’m not sure other than the sitting up how they’d help sleep….I can’t get the pic in my head lol.

    I bought peppermint tea to get used to it. It’s nice surprisingly but I’ll save it till I need it. I don’t think he likes the smell too much.

    Marie xx

    #318043

    KatieG
    Participant

    Good morning Marie

    I guess it’s easy for us to overlook how our partners are feeling – it’s obviously a very worrying time for them too but it’s easy just to focus on ourselves and how it affects our body/mind, etc.

    My husband has always been pretty good around the house too although his cooking skills are pretty limited (to say the least!) so that aspect been interesting in the last week or so! We’ve managed to laugh about it so far though and not fallen out.

    I’ve found the V pillow useful both in and out of bed. At night, lying down, it just seems to provide extra support for the body. I’ve also used it when sitting on the settee as I couldn’t seem to get my back into a comfortable position otherwise. Maybe it’s just that I’m not moving about as much at the moment. After a couple of nights I also discovered that a normal pillow under my knees made me more comfortable – the bed has been overtaken by random pillows lol.

    I quite like peppermint tea and am currently drinking it at least once a day. OH doesn’t like it though – he refers to it as my ‘hippy’ tea!!

    You sound as though you are getting yourself organised and well prepared but feel free to ask me if you think of anything else – happy to try and help if I can.

    Katie xx

    #318062

    Marie
    Participant

    Hi Katie

    My other half is awesome and his cooking is exceptional, I’m afraid I’m the useless one lol. I’ve picked up the pillow today and have yet to try it out. I’m anxious cause I can see us falling out when I’m doing even less but I’m trying not to dwell on it x

    #318068

    KatieG
    Participant

    Hi Marie

    I’m not sure my husband initially appreciated it was such a big op and think I helped my situation by quietly (but frequently!) reinforcing the importance of a very gentle, slow but sure, recovery period. I also printed off some info from the Internet about dos and don’ts post op and left it lying around. I’m sure your OH will understand although it is quite a transition – they need to become pretty much full time carers for a while. This is difficult both for them and us! I keep saying it’s only temporary and I’m also trying to keep smiling and laughing about things – two weeks post op and it seems to be working so far (apart from the very occasional bit of friction!).

    I hope you find the pillow useful. I’m sitting up in bed with mine right now hee hee.
    xx

    #318074

    Marie
    Participant

    I haven’t tried the pillow yet, but I hope your having a pain free day x

    #318083

    KatieG
    Participant

    Hope you can have a relaxing weekend, Marie.

    xx

    #318085

    Marie
    Participant

    See thanks Katie, you too xx

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